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The Secret Language of Relationships: Your Complete Personology Guide to Any Relationship With Anyone by Gary Goldschneider and Joost Elffers is a big, fun reference book that tells you how any two birthdays get along. It is one of my all time favorite coffee table books, and it makes a great gift for couples, best friends and astrology fans.
Why I love this book
What’s funny about this book is I’ve only ever referred to it when I wasn’t actually in a relationship, or wanted a reason to get out of one. I was comforted by the astrology when it told me my crush was a poor match, or that my beau and I were only victims of bad celestial juju. All I know is that I love it. It’s a great coffee table read. It’s big, has lots of words, and you will find yourself looking up everyone you know.
How The Secret Language of Relationships works
Instead of the usual 12 zodiac signs, the book uses personology, which breaks the year into 48 shorter periods. Every person falls into one of those periods based on their birthday. The book then gives a one page profile for every possible pairing, more than 1,000 relationships in all.
- Find your birthday period in the chart at the front of the book.
- Find the other person’s period.
- Turn to the page where the two periods meet.
- Read about your strengths, challenges and how you do in love, friendship, family and work.
Who it is for
- Couples who want a fun way to talk about their relationship.
- Best friends who love comparing notes on everyone they know.
- Astrology fans who want more detail than sun signs give.
- Party hosts looking for a conversation starter on the coffee table.
Similar books you might like
- The Secret Language of Birthdays by the same authors, with a profile for every single day of the year.
- The Secret Language of Destiny, which focuses on life purpose by birthday.
- The Astrology of You and Me, a modern guide to understanding every relationship in your life.
Frequently asked questions
What is The Secret Language of Relationships about?
It is a personology guide by Gary Goldschneider and Joost Elffers that describes how any two birthdays get along, with a short profile for every pairing of the 48 personology periods of the year.
Is The Secret Language of Relationships astrology?
It builds on astrology but uses personology, which splits the year into 48 periods instead of 12 signs, so each profile is more specific to your birthday.
How do you use The Secret Language of Relationships?
Find your birthday period and the other person’s period in the chart, then turn to the page where the two meet. Each pairing covers love, friendship, family and work.
Is it a good gift?
Yes. It is a fun coffee table book for couples, friends and anyone who loves astrology, and it pairs well with The Secret Language of Birthdays.
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